Have you ever fallen in love with a girl only to find that you’re more lost and confused than ever? Gasp! Is she using you? Find out with these signs. She may seem charming and cute. She may even be flirty and just the perfect girl you’ve been waiting for. But is this new relationship leaving you confused and low on confidence? She tells you she loves you, but the way she behaves seems otherwise. Is she using you? Every now and then, you may meet a girl who seems to fit snugly into the dream definition of a perfect girlfriend. But if you ever feel a flicker of confusion in those first few weeks, chances are, she’s using you or she’s just put you on her waiting list until she makes up her mind. Is she using you? It’s frustrating to realize that you’re being used, even when you’re trying to be a great boyfriend or a sex buddy. She may try to convince you that she truly loves you and wants to be with you, but five minutes later, her behavior may change and she may just act friendly all over again. Ever been there? Read these signs to find out if she’s using you.
#1 She wants her space… a lot!
Are you dating a girl who clings to you for a few days, and then completely ignores you for the next few days? While playing hard to get may excite a guy, this is pushing the game too far.
#2 Behaves like a friend
Does your new girlfriend behave like a friend now and then? She hugs you and cuddles you, and then pushes you away and tells you it’s all happening too fast and she’s not ready for it?
#3 Her friends don’t know you
When a girl uses you, there’s a good chance you’re never going to meet any of her friends. But if you both do bump into a good friend of hers, does her friend even realize who you are?
#4 You’re not introduced as a boyfriend
This is a no brainer here. But it’s something most guys in love almost always forgive and forget. Have you ever been introduced as just a friend?
#5 She’s confused about your relationship status
Now she may be genuinely confused about the kind of relationship both of you share, especially if she’s just broken up with her guy or is still in a relationship with some other guy. But the point is she’s confused.
#6 She talks about her complicated love life
Do you spend more time consoling her or telling her how the mistakes in her life aren’t really her fault? Girls who end up using guys are confused women who want to be reassured and loved all the time.
#7 She makes out but only when she wants to
You may sweet talk her and take her out to expensive dinners, all in the hope of getting some love and appreciation back from her. And of course, a little bit of making out too.
#8 She dominates the relationship
Does she call you up whenever she feels like it, or asks you to meet her at her whims and fancies?
#9 She wants you to listen, but not the other way around
Are you in love with a girl who loves talking about her own life and her little problems? Does she tell you about how bad her ex boyfriend was and why she had to cheat on him just to show him she has other options?
#10 She’s in another relationship
Almost always, relationships where the guy is being used starts off with conversations about complicated love lives. The girl you like may already be in a relationship, and with each conversation you have, both of you may fall more in love with each other.
If you find yourself experiencing any of these signs that you’re being used, you better walk out of the confusing affair before you end up with a broken heart. After all, she’s probably got a few backups with whom she’s playing the same game anyways. She may not do this intentionally just to hurt you, it’s just that she’s a selfish little cutie who cares more about her own happiness than anything else in the world.
Source: Naija Breed