Among the many challenges that couples in a steady relationship often face, keeping the spark alive is the most difficult act to manage. A lot has been written and said about how most people start losing interest in sex when they are in a committed relationship for a long time. In fact, a few researchers have conducted this interesting study on how fast a person loses interest in sex and if it’s gender-specific, and the conclusions are quite interesting. A Nigerian mean in need of help has cried out on social media over his wife’s sudden lack of interest in sexual activities.

 

 

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We have been married for almost 10 years now, with 5 kids. The last child is over 2 years old. My wife used to indulge me with sex a lot. And I enjoyed every bit of it. Sometimes I indulge her a lot too. I do sometimes resist it. Same with her too. Such has been our sex life so far; which has been good enough.

However, I started noticing a lot of reluctance in her each time I approach her for sex more than a year ago now. And it is getting worse these days. Each time I demand an explanation from her, she either complains of tiredness, headache or that she is seeing her period. The surprising thing to me now is that each time I touch her breast she cringes like a person that just stepped on Unclad electrical wire. Not to even mention several weird nightmares I experience each time I force my way, which even against my personal principles and ethics.

 

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Note that I don’t do sex like on a daily basis. Once or twice in a week is ok for me. Our sex life is dying. I don’t know what becomes of this marriage without sex. And I do really love her. Any good suggestions will be appreciated.

Loss of sex interest among people in a relationship depended on their gender. As per the researchers, women lose interest in sex much faster than men when they are in a committed relationship. 

Other similar reasons include, “not sharing the same level of sexual interest with a partner, and not sharing the same sexual likes and dislikes”. Researchers also found that sexual desires of couples in a serious relationship decrease with age, which means the older a couple grew, their sexual attraction also dimmed gradually. According to experts, couples should not let monotony affect a long-term relationship. They should try to keep the communication about their sexual likes and dislikes alive—so that a partner is not in the dark when the other’s sexual preferences change with time.

 

 

Losing interest in sex is quite common among couples in a committed relationship. But instead of keeping it a secret from each other, couples should share their problems and both the partners should be aware of it. It’s always better to address a problem when it arises instead of letting it grow out of proportion, which might threaten to weaken the relationship.

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