In a fresh relationship that new partners are getting to know each other by asking questions, peering into past relationships and trying to understand past sexual experiences, if the question arises from your [potential] boyfriend, which it might. No matter how gentle or however in a well-mannered way or innocently he asks, you should never tell, says Tracey Cox.
Your body count is the past sxxual relationship you’ve had in the past with your ex’s Tracey who is a popular English author and columnist who specializes in dating, sxx and relationships reveals. The relationship expert believes that listing the figure of your past sxx life, when asked, does not make sense. It is better to not answer the question at all, she opines.
“Your boyfriend can despise you despite what answer you offer once asked concerning past lovers and also the assumption they create is sometimes wrong.”
“Which is why I don’t care who’s doing the asking – whether or not it’s your partner, mother, best friend or beauty therapist – your answer to how many lovers you’ve had is no answer.”
You could tell your doctor, gynaecologist or other medical professionals who need your sxxual history for medical reasons, she adds. That looks logical enough, given that those are professionals who have signed a confidentiality oath.
Your past relationship will be used against you
“Keep your mouth zipped albeit nothing has happened and don’t child yourself: if you are going to talk about your figures to your lover, you will be judged – and not essentially by identical rules he judges himself.
“Even if he had been intimate with 300, your three will be two too many,” the 57-year-old expert says, bringing to the fore yet again the ridiculousness of the double standard which society judges sxxual activeness within the genders.
Men are hailed and honoured as champs once they’ve been with varied ladies, but women are called tramps for being even half as sexually adventurous as some of these men. To avoid these unjust bias in society’s evaluation of you, Tracy says to keep mum about your body count, or past sxxual experience. Don’t tell your boo; not your friends and certainly not your Nigerian oldsters and you’ll be simply fine.
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