So, fellas, I don’t know if you realize this but, if your partner ever tells you that she is pregnant, she went through an emotional roller coaster before arriving at that moment. She probably already cried a lot, had several panic attacks, and took the whole damn box of pregnancy tests just to make sure. She’s been through the ringer before arriving at that moment in which she sits you down and tells you she’s pregnant. For a lady, a standout amongst other parts of being pregnant is when she gets the chance to impart the upbeat news to her darling.
The issue is that men aren’t generally so excited about pregnancies, particularly if the lady being referred to is only a sweetheart or companion with benefits and not an official spouse. Now, I understand that the information is shocking. And I understand that you have a disadvantage because, when you find out she’s pregnant, your girlfriend or wife is staring right at you, judging your reaction, but when she found out, she was likely alone in a bathroom or doctor’s office.
Pregnancies terrify men and therefore, they have a tendency to respond in the most blunderous ways. Few things carry as much of that ‘punch in the gut’ feeling as having a girl you’re seeing tell you she’s pregnant. Unless you’re married and trying for children, hearing she has a bun in the oven is one of those shocks you never fully expect, and even if some part of you might’ve liked the idea of knocking this cute girl up in theory, being face to face with a real pregnancy is different. It’s essential to understand that the lady did not make the child alone. Regardless of how shock you are, refrain from saying the wrong thing. That being said, please, please don’t say these things if your partner tells you she’s pregnant.
1 What are you going to do?
Why influence it to appear as though it’s her concern?. This shows how much you lack a sense of responsibility. It’s not about her. It’s about the both of you.
2. You should get an abortion.
Ah ah. After pregnancy test turns positive, know that abortions are not legal in most African countries and that means there are no safe ways to do it. Most abortions are done by quacks. Don’t make a woman take health risks or go out on a limb for your own narrow minded reasons.
3. Is it mine?
Indeed, on the off chance that she disclosed to you she’s pregnant, it implies it’s yours. Or then again who else do you think it has a place with?
4. Are you sure?
Obviously, she’s certain. Ladies don’t just guess pregnancies. She must have taken a pregnancy test and that means she’s sure. What do you mean when you ask “Are you sure?”
5. I am so shocked right now.
A pregnancy declaration after a positive pregnancy test should make you glad, not stunned. Be cheerful that you are going to be a daddy. Look on the bright side. Be glad that you’ll have a mini-you crawling around in a few months time.
6. What?
Don’t pretend to be deaf my brother. You heard her well. You munched the goodies without wrapping it up and you knew the potential consequences.
7. How did it happen?
It happened when you got her exposed and engaged in sexual relations. At that point your sperm swam to her egg and fertilization occurred. Or then again do you need to return to class and figure out how the human regenerative framework functions?. Be responsible.
8. Denial
When your lady tells you that shes pregnant, do not abruptly deny the pregnancy. It’s wrong and disrespectful to both her and the issue. Advice from the house is that you man up an accept responsibility of your action.
9. Silence.
Silence is the worst. It leaves a woman regretting everything she ever did with you. Try not to be that way. You are superior to that. There are many things you can say even if you don’t mean them. One such example is “Wow! I am so happy babe.” Simple.
Source: Within Nigeria